Navigating the Edge
Living at the edge
If you’re reading this, that means you’re living at your edge. You strive to expand your world and lean further into your potential, and you’re willing to explore the unknown and get uncomfortable to get there.
The edge is not always sexy. In fact, it’s usually hard and petrifying, full of tears, self-doubt, and grief. Growth requires meeting resistance to changing form and embracing the inherent fear that accompanies the unknown. It’s requires courage.
I’m here to tell you you’re doing a great job. No matter how hard things currently are, no matter whether you know your next step or not, know that you are exactly where you need to be. Energy is constantly moving and changing. This goes for both sad feelings and euphoric ones. Some say change is the only constant, but there is another constant - your divinity. Allow yourself to find solace in these two truths.
Having a hard time navigating your edge? Below are some tips.
Honor each experience
Whatever you do, don’t get down on yourself and judge your feelings (or yourself) as “not spiritual.” Your feelings are valid. Getting real with what you’re feeling and experiencing is the most spiritual thing you can do.
The spiritual path is not about chasing bliss. It’s about learning to respect all stages of being as divine, which can only be done through direct experience of each of them, without attachment. Only when we allow experiences to wash through us with complete surrender can we see their value, and acknowledge their equal place in divinity (and within ourselves).
It’s facing our deepest fears straight on, and learning to love through them, that releases us from them. It is also through this process that we harness our power. Fear is separation looking for love. It’s untapped energetic potential looking to come into wholeness. Consider each fear as one more pac-man dot, bringing you closer to winning self-actualization.
Having self-compassion in the midst of our deepest fears is where true spiritual strength comes from. This is where the talk meets the walk.
Feel within loving presence
Self-compassion means first allowing ourselves to feel, within a container of loving presence. It requires great courage to be loving enough with ourselves to allow vulnerable feelings to surface. But it is only in this attentive space that hard feelings feel safe enough to surface. Turning to a trusted community, a therapist, or going direct to loving energies within ceremony (or nature) are great ways to create a loving container where hard feelings can be felt and acknowledged.
What are your feelings trying to tell you?
Emotions are the body’s way of delivering information to us. (Energy - in - motion = e-motion). Once the message is received, they move, since their job is done. This is why no emotion is static, and instead they are waves of energy that take us on a journey and then leave. When they fester due to neglect (their message not being received), they become illness in the body, creating anxiety and stress.
This means all emotions are to be revered and related to consciously. Rage is a good example of an emotion that is powerful medicine when engaged with consciously. Rage is a trigger for change and transformation, as it indicates boundaries have been crossed and initiates action. It’s powerful, and it’s divine. If the message is not received however, and the rage is left unacknowledged, it can quickly damage the liver and nervous system.
All feelings are sacred. Listen for the truths that lie behind yours.
Slow things down
When we are struggling with hard feelings and negativity, it is common for our sympathetic nervous system to run on overdrive, causing anxiety and frantic thoughts. Slowing things down with mindful breath is a powerful means of taking back control of your experience.
Breath is our life force, so it follows that we are only as conscious as we are connected to our breath.
Use the slow breathing meditation below to gain clarity and see the light beyond the discomfort of your edge point.
Inhale slowly for 15 seconds (or 10 secs, and work your way up)
Hold breath for 15 seconds
Exhale slowly for 15 seconds
Breath is done slowly, in and out through the nose, eyes closed turned inward at the brow point. Hands can be in gyan mudra (thumb and index finger touching). Continue for 11 minutes.
By being completely present to the moment, we become more present to life. It’s with this awareness that problems are solved and flow is generated.
Bringing sound to your emotion, or to any feeling in the body that needs attention, is a great way to make contact with it and allow it to transform. Sounding is a way to connect and amplify a specific frequency. While meditating, try making the sound of the feelings that are tapping your attention, and explore what that feels like.
Listen to intentional music that supports healing vibrations. Kirtan and other forms of devotional music are wonderful for connecting with divine love frequencies. Find a track or artist that calls to you.
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Sometimes we need to can get lost in negative spiraling and need to a pattern interruption to get back on track. Try balancing the Positive Mind to open up your perception and allow joy to trickle in. You may be surprised what an unexpected injection of joy can do to our thought patterns, including reclaiming our power.
Keep up and you will be kept up
Those are the words of Yogi Bhajan, kundalini yoga master who brought kundalini yoga to the west in 1969. Sit in the knowing of your divinity, and lean into the practices and people that feel good to you. Allow the practices and your community to support you.
Remember, you may feel alone, but we are all walking this path together.
- From one edge-walker to another